{"id":459,"date":"2009-12-14T08:31:16","date_gmt":"2009-12-14T07:31:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/?p=459"},"modified":"2010-01-04T14:55:52","modified_gmt":"2010-01-04T13:55:52","slug":"tridni-otloukanek-aneb-reseni-sikany-ano-ci-ne","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/prispevky\/tridni-otloukanek-aneb-reseni-sikany-ano-ci-ne.html","title":{"rendered":"T\u0158\u00cdDN\u00cd OTLOUK\u00c1NEK, aneb \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed \u0161ikany ano \u010di ne?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Na tomto blogu jsem ned\u00e1vno psal o obl\u00edbenc\u00edch a \u017e\u00e1c\u00edch u\u010ditelem odepsan\u00fdch. Ur\u010dit\u011b lze jeho p\u0159\u00edstup nazvat jako \u201epedagogick\u00e1 \u0161ikana\u201c. P\u0159esto\u017ee to nen\u00ed typick\u00fd projev na\u0161eho stavu, ale p\u0159esto existuje. Dnes se pokus\u00edm popsat pozici t\u0159\u00eddn\u00edho otlouk\u00e1nka pohledem jeho spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016f. A tak trochu p\u0159itom \u00a0poradit, jak takov\u00e9mu ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00edkovi pomoci zp\u011bt do houfu.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><!--more--><em><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Je t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 n\u011bjak stru\u010dn\u011b vymezit znaky, kter\u00e9 vedou k situaci, \u017ee v ka\u017ed\u00e9 t\u0159\u00edd\u011b z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1 zpravidla n\u011bkolik \u017e\u00e1k\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed stoj\u00ed stranou spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016f a slou\u017e\u00ed jim k posm\u011bchu a \u010dasto i pobaven\u00ed. N\u011bkdy je p\u0159\u00ed\u010dinou jejich \u0161patn\u00fd, nebo naopak v\u00fdborn\u00fd prosp\u011bch. Ale je\u0161t\u011b \u010dast\u011bji jde o fyzick\u00fd vzhled a odli\u0161nost patrnou na ji\u017e na prvn\u00ed pohled a kter\u00fdm posti\u017een\u00fd n\u011bjak\u00fdm zp\u016fsobem ostatn\u00edmi spolu\u017e\u00e1ky provokuje. Jindy je to zase zp\u016fsob chov\u00e1n\u00ed a neobvykl\u00e9 reakce na vznikaj\u00edc\u00ed \u0161koln\u00ed situace.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u017d\u00e1k mimo kolektiv t\u0159\u00eddy m\u016f\u017ee a nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt pro jeho pobyt \u00a0i \u017eivot ve\u00a0 t\u0159\u00edd\u011b probl\u00e9m. V ka\u017ed\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b by m\u011bla u\u010ditele zaj\u00edmat p\u0159\u00ed\u010dina jeho vy\u0159azen\u00ed. K objektivn\u00edmu posouzen\u00ed by m\u011bl u\u010ditel zn\u00e1t n\u00e1zor samotn\u00e9ho posti\u017een\u00e9ho \u017e\u00e1ka a v\u011bd\u011bt, jak svoje postaven\u00ed pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 a zda chce sv\u016fj stav v\u016fbec n\u011bjak zm\u011bnit. Jsou toti\u017e \u017e\u00e1ci, kte\u0159\u00ed takovou pozici sami vyhled\u00e1vaj\u00ed a st\u00e1t mimo n\u011bj je bav\u00ed a pracuj\u00ed na takov\u00e9 pozici programov\u011b. T\u011bm se d\u00e1 jen t\u011b\u017eko n\u011bjak pomoci, proto\u017ee se pr\u00e1v\u011b takto vy\u0159azen\u00ed c\u00edt\u00ed nejl\u00e9pe. Jin\u00e1 situace je, pokud posti\u017een\u00fd svoje postaven\u00ed ch\u00e1pe jako trauma a m\u00e1 z\u00e1jem a snahu dostat se ke sv\u00fdm spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016fm a b\u00fdt jimi vn\u00edm\u00e1n norm\u00e1ln\u011b\u00a0 a pozitivn\u011b.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Pro u\u010ditele je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fd n\u00e1zor jeho spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016f, kter\u00fd u\u010ditel dostane pohovorem s jednotlivci, nebo cel\u00fdm kolektivem t\u0159\u00eddy. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b, \u017ee se to d\u011bje bez p\u0159\u00edtomnosti \u0159e\u0161en\u00e9ho \u017e\u00e1ka, jeho\u017e probl\u00e9m \u0159e\u0161\u00edme. Dozv\u00edme se v\u011bt\u0161inou zaj\u00edmav\u00e9 poznatky, kterou m\u00e9ho b\u00fdt zcela mimo na\u0161e p\u0159edstavy \u00a0a zku\u0161enosti. N\u011bkdy je postaven\u00ed takov\u00e9ho \u017e\u00e1ka dan\u00e9 jednou negativn\u00ed zku\u0161enost\u00ed, ojedin\u011blou p\u0159\u00edhodou, kterou s n\u00edm jeho spolu\u017e\u00e1ci pro\u017eili. \u00a0 V takov\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b sta\u010d\u00ed vysv\u011btlen\u00ed, objasn\u011bn\u00ed cel\u00e9 situace a v\u00fdzva ke spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016fm, aby dali sv\u00e9mu kamar\u00e1dovi je\u0161t\u011b jednu \u0161anci.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0 N\u011bkdy jsou p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny takov\u00e9ho vy\u0159azen\u00ed dost bizardn\u00ed. Mez\u00ed spolu\u017e\u00e1ky se t\u0159eba rozneslo, \u017ee jejich kamar\u00e1d m\u00e1 ko\u017en\u00ed nemoc a za\u010dali se mu nejd\u0159\u00edve vyh\u00fdbat (aby se od n\u011bj nenakazili) a pozd\u011bji se mu i vysm\u00edvat. Tady bylo \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed ve vysv\u011btlen\u00ed, \u017ee za do\u010dasn\u00e9 posti\u017een\u00ed jejich spolu\u017e\u00e1k nem\u016f\u017ee, \u017ee se l\u00e9\u010d\u00ed a jeho probl\u00e9m nen\u00ed pro n\u011b \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fdm nebezpe\u010d\u00edm.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Dal\u0161\u00edm d\u016fvodem jsou p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny soci\u00e1ln\u00ed. Fenom\u00e9n, kter\u00fd za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 b\u00fdt probl\u00e9m zvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b v posledn\u00edch letech, kdy se prohlubuj\u00ed nerovnosti v hmotn\u00e9m zabezpe\u010den\u00ed mezi jednotliv\u00fdmi rodinami. A tak jsou ve t\u0159\u00edd\u011b \u017e\u00e1ci, kte\u0159\u00ed se z d\u016fvodu relativn\u00ed chudoby nemohou obl\u00e9kat podle nejnov\u011bj\u0161\u00ed m\u00f3dy, ne\u00fa\u010dastn\u00ed se kulturn\u00edch akc\u00ed a v\u00fdlet\u016f, proto\u017ee jim rodi\u010de nemohou tyto aktivity finan\u010dn\u011b zabezpe\u010dit. T\u00edm se dost\u00e1v\u00e1 \u017e\u00e1k mimo ostatn\u00ed \u017e\u00e1ky, je pova\u017eov\u00e1n za m\u00e9n\u011bcenn\u00e9ho, nedokonal\u00e9ho. Na druh\u00e9m p\u00f3lu jsou d\u011bti dob\u0159e situovan\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f (jsou ozna\u010dov\u00e1ny jako \u201epodnikatelsk\u00e9 d\u011bti\u201c). Maj\u00ed v\u0161e \u00a0na co si vzpomenou a postaven\u00ed rodi\u010d\u016f a dostatek pen\u011bz d\u00e1vaj\u00ed \u010dasto ok\u00e1zale najevo, \u010d\u00edm se ostatn\u00edm zprotiv\u00ed. \u010casto si proto spolu\u017e\u00e1ky &#8222;kupuj\u00ed&#8220; r\u016fzn\u00fdmi d\u00e1re\u010dky. Host\u00ed je, kupuj\u00ed jim dokonce cigarety i alkohol, aby se jim zavd\u011b\u010dili. Paradoxn\u011b se t\u00edm ale z kolektivu ostatn\u00edch je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edce odd\u011bluj\u00ed a uzn\u00e1n\u00ed se jim dost\u00e1v\u00e1 jen od t\u011bch, kte\u0159\u00ed na jejich finan\u010dn\u00edch p\u0159ebytc\u00edch \u00a0parazituj\u00ed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Na tomto blogu jsem ned\u00e1vno psal o obl\u00edbenc\u00edch a \u017e\u00e1c\u00edch u\u010ditelem odepsan\u00fdch. Ur\u010dit\u011b lze jeho p\u0159\u00edstup nazvat jako \u201epedagogick\u00e1 \u0161ikana\u201c. P\u0159esto\u017ee to nen\u00ed typick\u00fd projev na\u0161eho stavu, ale p\u0159esto existuje. Dnes se pokus\u00edm popsat pozici t\u0159\u00eddn\u00edho otlouk\u00e1nka pohledem jeho spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016f. A tak trochu p\u0159itom \u00a0poradit, jak takov\u00e9mu ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00edkovi pomoci zp\u011bt do houfu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":33,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[291,305,317],"tags":[463,141,461],"class_list":["post-459","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-autorska","category-pondelnicek","category-ranicek","tag-individualni-cinnost-ucitele","tag-pedagogicky-takt","tag-sikana-vee-tridfe"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/459","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/33"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=459"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/459\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":763,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/459\/revisions\/763"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=459"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=459"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=459"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}