{"id":221,"date":"2009-01-16T07:17:38","date_gmt":"2009-01-16T07:17:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/?p=221"},"modified":"2009-03-22T15:11:41","modified_gmt":"2009-03-22T15:11:41","slug":"ucitelske-deti-jako-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/prispevky\/ucitelske-deti-jako-problem.html","title":{"rendered":"PROKLET\u00cd U\u010cITELSK\u00ddCH D\u011aTI"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Nikoho snad nep\u0159ekvap\u00ed, kdy\u017e \u0159eknu, \u017ee u\u010ditel je vedle sv\u00e9 profese tak\u00e9 rodi\u010d a\u00a0m\u00e1 d\u011bti, kter\u00e9 jsou p\u0159irozen\u011b \u0161kol\u00e1ky. Tato dvojrole\u00a0 p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed neuv\u011b\u0159itelnou kombinaci nejr\u016fzn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch \u017eivotn\u00edch situac\u00ed, kter\u00e9 jsou v\u00fd\u017eivnou z\u00e1kladnou pro nejr\u016fzn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed dohady a st\u0159ety s okol\u00edm u\u010ditelsk\u00e9 rodiny. A\u0165 je tomu jakkoliv, role u\u010ditele-rodi\u010de nen\u00ed\u00a0snadn\u00e1 ani pro n\u011b, ani pro jejich d\u011bti. Mohl bych o tom hodn\u011b vypr\u00e1v\u011bt. Jsem typick\u00e9 u\u010ditelsk\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b.\u00a0Ze sv\u00fdch pocit\u016f vyberu alespo\u0148 n\u011bkolik mal\u00fdch post\u0159eh\u016f.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>\t<!--more-->Nepamatuji se, \u017ee by mi to rodi\u010de \u010dasto a opakovan\u011b p\u0159ipom\u00ednali.\u00a0S\u00e1m jsem n\u011bjak vnit\u0159n\u011b c\u00edtil, \u017ee jako d\u00edt\u011b u\u010ditel\u016f, jsem ostatn\u00edmi lidmi posuzov\u00e1n p\u0159\u00edsn\u011bji ne\u017e moji vrstevn\u00edci. O\u010dek\u00e1valo se, \u017ee se budu dob\u0159e u\u010dit a v\u017edy se p\u0159\u00edkladn\u011b\u00a0chovat.\u00a0Budu \u017eiv\u00fdm obrazem n\u00e1rok\u016f, kter\u00e9 maj\u00ed moji rodi\u010de na sv\u00e9 \u017e\u00e1ky. A\u010d jsem nikdy nebyl konfliktn\u00edm \u017e\u00e1kem, mus\u00edm p\u0159iznat, \u017ee jsem tuto\u00a0roli vn\u00edmal\u00a0 \u010dasto jako\u00a0b\u0159emeno. Omezovala m\u011b v b\u011b\u017en\u00fdch d\u011btsk\u00fdch aktivit\u00e1ch, p\u0159i aktivn\u00ed \u00fa\u010dasti na lump\u00e1rn\u00e1ch spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016f, p\u0159i komunikaci s dosp\u011bl\u00fdmi. Neust\u00e1le jsem m\u011bl na pam\u011bti, \u017ee jsme\u00a0\u017eivou maketou sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f &#8211; pedagog\u016f. Pozd\u011bji\u00a0jsem se s\u00e1m\u00a0stal u\u010ditelem,co\u017e m\u011blo svoji logiku pr\u00e1v\u011b v tom,co jsem\u00a0 v\u00fd\u0161e popsal. Vlastn\u011b jsem ani nikdy o jin\u00e9 \u017eivotn\u00ed roli neuva\u017eoval.<\/p>\n<p>Kdy\u017e jsem se stal u\u010ditelem a m\u011bl d\u011bti, role se najednou vym\u011bnily. Je pravda, \u017ee jsem dovedl pochopit co ve \u0161kole moje\u00a0d\u011bti, jako potomci u\u010ditel\u016f, pro\u017e\u00edvaj\u00ed. Ale nikdy jsem si nemyslel, \u017ee ani\u00a0v t\u00e9to prom\u011bn\u011bn\u00e9 situaci to nen\u00ed pro rodi\u010de-u\u010ditele role o nic leh\u010d\u00ed ne\u017e ta b\u00fdval\u00e1 role d\u00edt\u011bte. \u010casto jsem \u0159e\u0161il, jak se v p\u0159i \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed probl\u00e9mu sv\u00e9ho d\u00edt\u011bte zachovat. Zda\u00a0b\u00fdt v\u00edc ch\u00e1paj\u00edc\u00edm a tolerantn\u00edm rodi\u010dem, ne\u017e\u00a0z\u00e1sadov\u00fdm a nekompromisn\u00edm u\u010ditelem. Hled\u00e1n\u00ed t\u00e9 spr\u00e1vn\u00e9 m\u00edry p\u016fsoben\u00ed bylo mnohdy velmi t\u011b\u017ekou rol\u00ed a bylo to jako v\u00e1\u017een\u00ed l\u00e9\u010div na l\u00e9k\u00e1rensk\u00fdch vah\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n<p>Je pravda, \u017ee u\u010ditelsk\u00e9 d\u011bti jsou v kolektivu sv\u00fdch vrstevn\u00edk\u016f v neobvykl\u00e9m postaven\u00ed. Pokud se jim da\u0159\u00ed a jsou \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00ed, je to zd\u016fvod\u0148ov\u00e1no t\u00edm, \u017ee maj\u00ed ve \u0161kole, \u00a0z titulu funkce sv\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f, \u00a0protekci. Pokud maj\u00ed naopak n\u011bjak\u00e9 probl\u00e9my a neda\u0159\u00ed se jim, je to neschopnost jejich rodi\u010d\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed n\u011bco cht\u011bj\u00ed na ostatn\u00edch a u vlastn\u00edch d\u011bt\u00ed to prosadit neum\u011bj\u00ed. D\u00edt\u011b i rodi\u010d tak \u017eij\u00ed v permanentn\u00edm stresu a nejistot\u011b, co jim p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u00ed den ve \u0161kole p\u0159inese.<\/p>\n<p>Mo\u017en\u00e1 jsem ve sv\u00e9 \u00favaze situaci\u00a0p\u0159iost\u0159il.\u00a0Mo\u017en\u00e1 \u017ee pozice u\u010ditelsk\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed nen\u00ed tak dramatick\u00e1. Ani j\u00e1 jsem ji tak nikdy nevn\u00edmal. T\u011b\u0161il jsem se ze z\u00e1jmu a d\u016fv\u011bry sv\u00fdch spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016f, kter\u00e1\u00a0nevypl\u00fdvala\u00a0jenom z postaven\u00edm m\u00fdch rodi\u010d\u016f, ale p\u0159isp\u011bl jsem k tomu sv\u00fdm osobit\u00fdm jedn\u00e1n\u00edm a chov\u00e1n\u00edm. \u00a0Pozd\u011bji jako u\u010ditel jsem pro\u017e\u00edval \u00fasp\u011bchy i nezdary sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed a nikdy jsem nezneu\u017eil mo\u017enosti ovlivnit jejich prosp\u011bch \u010di \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed probl\u00e9m\u016f v chov\u00e1n\u00ed.\u00a0Je ale pravda, \u017ee u\u010ditelsk\u00e9 d\u011bti jsou v\u00edce vid\u011bt a jsou p\u0159irozen\u011b st\u0159edem\u00a0z\u00e1jmu spolu\u017e\u00e1k\u016f, u\u010ditel\u016f \u0161koly kam doch\u00e1zej\u00ed i cel\u00e9 ve\u0159ejnosti. Ale pokud ob\u011b pozice ( d\u00edt\u011bte i u\u010ditele) vn\u00edm\u00e1me norm\u00e1ln\u011b a bez p\u0159edsudk\u016f, nemus\u00ed a tak\u00e9 nedoch\u00e1z\u00ed k v\u011bt\u0161\u00edm probl\u00e9m\u016fm. B\u00fdt u\u010ditelsk\u00fdm d\u00edt\u011btem je stejn\u00e9, jako b\u00fdt d\u00edt\u011btem l\u00e9ka\u0159e v nemocnici, kde pracuj\u00ed jeho rodi\u010de v roli l\u00e9ka\u0159e.\u00a0 Nebo d\u00edt\u011bte v roli nakupuj\u00edc\u00edho v obchod\u011b, kde n\u011bkter\u00fd z rodi\u010d\u016f prod\u00e1v\u00e1. M\u016f\u017ee to b\u00fdt v danou chv\u00edli ur\u010ditou v\u00fdhodou, ale nem\u016f\u017ee j\u00edt o n\u011bjak\u00fd pro d\u00edt\u011b \u00a0\u017eivotn\u011b v\u00fdznamn\u00fd vliv. Mo\u017en\u00e1 \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b l\u00e9ka\u0159e m\u00e1 v nemocnici v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed pozornost ostatn\u00edch l\u00e9ka\u0159\u016f. D\u00edt\u011b prodava\u010de m\u00e1 lep\u0161\u00ed p\u0159\u00edstup k nov\u00e9mu prod\u00e1van\u00e9mu zbo\u017e\u00ed. Ale to\u00a0v\u0161e ho jist\u011b \u00a0ani nevyl\u00e9\u010d\u00ed z jeho zdravotn\u00edch pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed a neud\u011bl\u00e1 ho trvale bohat\u00fdm. Tak i u\u010ditelsk\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b \u0161kola nenau\u010d\u00ed v\u00edce ne\u017e ostatn\u00ed \u017e\u00e1ky, pokud k tomu samo d\u00edt\u011b\u00a0sv\u00fdm \u00fasil\u00edm\u00a0\u00a0nep\u0159isp\u011bje.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nikoho snad nep\u0159ekvap\u00ed, kdy\u017e \u0159eknu, \u017ee u\u010ditel je vedle sv\u00e9 profese tak\u00e9 rodi\u010d a\u00a0m\u00e1 d\u011bti, kter\u00e9 jsou p\u0159irozen\u011b \u0161kol\u00e1ky. Tato dvojrole\u00a0 p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed neuv\u011b\u0159itelnou kombinaci nejr\u016fzn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch \u017eivotn\u00edch situac\u00ed, kter\u00e9 jsou v\u00fd\u017eivnou z\u00e1kladnou pro nejr\u016fzn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed dohady a st\u0159ety s okol\u00edm u\u010ditelsk\u00e9 rodiny. A\u0165 je tomu jakkoliv, role u\u010ditele-rodi\u010de nen\u00ed\u00a0snadn\u00e1 ani pro n\u011b, ani pro jejich d\u011bti. Mohl [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":33,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[303,293],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-221","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-patnicek","category-zivotni"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/33"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=221"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/221\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=221"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=221"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogy.rvp.cz\/dedvseved\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=221"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}